Hi GrimTopaz...

I have to admit, I'm a bit confused about what's going on. It's not your description, it's the situation.

So... you have a T and a Psychiatrist. Then, you start going to a clinic (outpatient?) for intensive treatments. A random psychiatrist there who is NOT treating you decides to sit in on your treatments to be supportive... ? Is that right? I think that's what's confusing me, and I wonder if I just missed something, because that sounds weird and not appropriate? ("Hi, I'm Dr. X. I'm not going to be treating you, but I'll just sit here and be supportive, even though we've never met and don't currently have any sort of ongoing professional relationship. How's that sound?")

It sounds like the level of disclosures that he's making are not appropriate. Period. You are there for treatment, and the fact that you also work there doesn't change that. He's disclosing things to you... during the process of treatment? Not when you're hanging around as an employee? Not on coffee breaks where you bump into each other, or company-wide meetings where you're making small talk?

Yeah, that's not good. I'm sure you know this, but as a patient/client - the people working with you (or supporting you, given he works for the facility) should (in a perfect, ethical world) be monitoring themselves and only disclosing things that they feel are helpful to *you*. From what you said, it sounds like he's starting to disclose in a way that's helpful for him, maybe? Like, it's helping *him* feel connected, less crazy/weird, and less burdened?

That's not OK, and you deserve better.

Can you talk to the people that ARE providing treatment? Is this something you could bring up with them, and let them deal with it? If I were in your shoes, I'd probably talk to them (assuming I trusted them) and specifically tell them that I don't want to do anything that might negatively impact my work relationship (though it sounds like you don't have to interact with him at work, I suppose that could change?) with him. They may be able to phrase it as something they've noticed, rather than something that you brought up to them.

Ugh, I'm sort of frustrated for you - because these people who are providing treatment should have noticed and stopped this already! They should be protecting you from this. I'm so sorry!

Anyway, that's my interpretation. I'm sorry that you're going through it, and that you were left affected by his disclosures. It's hard enough to deal with your own stuff, you don't need people adding their stuff to the pile! Take care, and I hope you can find a way to get this resolved!