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Old Jul 07, 2017, 10:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Elio View Post
Art, I'm proud of you for calling your T. I know you are not happy with yourself about it. You recognized that you were stuck in a thinking pattern and you took action to get out of it and the sounds of it, you didn't take ownership of the disagreements that occurred in your session. I think both of those are positive steps. It's not going to be easy whatever you decide to do. Your T has been a major part of your life for a number of years. I've never done what you are trying to do, trying to learn to do. My guess is that it is part of what I will learn as well. I stuck it out with my T through this rupture and things are still not good between us. They are better. I don't know if they will ever be good for us again. I guess I am holding out the hope that they will be good enough again.

So, maybe what was said at this last session will put a dent in things, will what is left be good enough to learn the lessons still available to you... I don't know. I know it was brave, courageous, and self compassionate to call her today and to talk about such a difficult topic.
Thanks, Elio. I appreciate that. It did feel brave, I almost dropped my phone when she said she didn't know if we could fix things or not, but I didn't and I didn't start groveling and begging either, instead I just said quite honestly that I didn't know either. I was glad that she admitted that it had been difficult for her as well and that she was still working through it. But then she said that a therapeutic relationship like ours should be able to withstand a blow up and that we would talk about it next time. So we shall see what happens.
Thanks for this!
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