Can you do a quick phone chat to see if you could get some type of vibe off of them? Several in my area are willing to talk for 15-20 mins on the phone as an introduction. I thought I had found someone that would be a good replacement for my T when I thought I was going to leave her. We played phone tag a bit and how she left a voicemail rubbed me the wrong way. Not a good way to start something when we hadn't even met.