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Originally Posted by Rose76
I'm reminded of the two women before Solomon disputing ownership of a baby. Solomon says, "What if I split this kid right down the middle and you each get a piece?" One woman says, "Fine!" Solomon then says to that woman, "Obviously, you are not the mother."
The way your proposal carves up your daughters life has a surgically ruthless precision to it that doesn't seem driven by what will be happiest for her. There's a cold ring to it.
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I respectfully disagree.
It sounds like typical custody agreements. Spontaneity when kid lives with one parent or between two houses is difficult to arrange. Kid needs to be home and needs to be available for a parent to see her, to ensure that there is typically a schedule. If it's 50/50 arrangement it's still needs to be established when the kid should be ready etc.
I don't see nothing rigid in seeing a kid two days or week or a certain day etc usually lawyers help with negotiations.
OP child is hurt that dad isn't showing up to see her and isn't involved, she understandably hopes to get him more involved fir the sake of her daughter. It's a terrible feeling to watch your kid suffer. Unfortunately it's unlikely dad will get better but it doesn't mean she is wrong or has ulterior motives.
The best solution is to rely on mediation and have professional help in designing a plan. Unfortunately this man in general is a loser (reading previous posts) and likely isnt equipped to be a decent father. But OP proposal of custody arrangement isn't out of order or that different from other arrangements