I found another T right away while I was in a relationship with the abusive T. After I moved to another state it took me 15 years to try to find more healing and support. I was lucky and found someone on the second try.

No, I don't trust her 100% but she is very helpful and supportive. I never expected to find another attachment, but I have. I'm lucky she seems to be serious about having my best interest at heart. We will see.