This right here. I can't be vulnerable in front of her anymore. Her office used to be my safe zone. No matter what I was going through, I knew that if I got to that day and walked up that flight of stairs, I would be safe.
This is no longer the case.
As I was walking out and she was taking forever to give me a new time, I kept thinking to myself, "If I can make it to my car, I can start to cry and I'll be SAFE." Her office is no longer safe to me. A place of comfort.
When I was a kid, I'd feel this way. If my parents were mean or nasty to me...I knew if I could hide it, if I could put it away for just a little while and make it into the shower, that I could finally sob uncontrollably. I'd be safe.
She made mention that she had been thinking of it over the weekend and then kinda backtracked, like she didn't wanna reveal that.
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Originally Posted by satsuma
This T says she is not going to treat you like a delicate flower. I would say that Ts more or less should treat their clients in a delicate way, because if someone comes to see a T it is usually because they are experiencing problems, so they are already in a painful and vulnerable place to begin with, and then they need to take a risk and share these things with a T and trust that T, making them even more vulnerable. I think that "I'm not going to treat you like a delicate flower" just would not wash for me, in terms of the therapeutic relationship.
Of course sometimes T might want to speak about difficult topics or say something that is hard for the client to hear. I think they need to do this carefully and delicately, and on the basis of a trusting relationship which the T has put a lot of effort into first.
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