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Originally Posted by koru_kiwi
there is often a lot of discussions and stories here about clients who have had bad or or harmful experiences with a therapist and i am quite curious as to how often and why those who have had adverse therapy experiences continue to seek or not seek further help from those in the same industry as the prior offending T.
what I find the most curious, and don't quite understand, is why some clients will seek the help of another T to help them process the harm that a previous T has caused, especially in the instances where there was a serious breach of trust by the offending T. not only is this harmed client having to address (and pay for) the original issues that brought them to T in the fist place with the next T, now they are adding the extra trauma/damage that was inflicted upon them by the prior T (and having to pay yet more to heal that damage).
also, i struggle with understanding how one could ever come to fully trust another T, expose their deepest vulnerabilities, so the therapy can be useful and productive after having such vulnerabilities taken advantage of.
personally, i am at a place where i don't plan to seek further therapy to repair or heal past damage by my former Ts.
this definilty baffles me...  and i would love to hear others perspectives, both good and bad. |
I completely agree. I refuse to seek out another T when things with one T doesn't work out. I had a long break and returned to my ex T to just have an issue with her a few days ago and take another break. I cancelled my appointment 3 hrs before because of our nonsense texts. She won't admit that she was wrong. I owned up to my cancellation and I'm paying her for the session. This break is very different from the last and I think it shows her I professionalism. I will not be returning to her at all or another T to pay to be minimized or have conflicts with. I still haven't even gotten close to resolving any of my issues. When I look at would I've spent i consider myself stupid. I could do so much more with an extra $360 a month plus the gas to get there. At this point in my like I refuse to subject myself to the same treatment by another T or worse. I'm not willing to take the risk with another.
Perhaps certain people might feel Like they need to process these thoughts with another T and take a risk but at what cost??? There's so much more involved. A friend of mine said once to me that he will not pay someone $100 to just talk. He said there better be labs and treatments involved that actually show proof that something is being done but he will not pay $100 to just talk. I get what he's saying now. That's always been in the back of my head at the end of a non-Productive session. I'm not saying this is the case with all therapists and I don't expect clients to side with me but this has been my experience and the direction I choose to take now.