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Originally Posted by nadia533
I had come here wishing for support because I went through this traumatizing event the emotionally damaged me. I guess I didn't expect people to defend the girl who hurt me so badly so it threw me off guard and hurt me when I was already very emotional.
If you stayed updated on the other thread, I apologized. I feel like you're making me out to be a bad person. I just needed some time to cool off because like I said, this is very emotional for me. Next time, I will specify that I am looking for emotional support.
You're explanation about America and violence in schools did help. I'm still deeply upset by the situation- more than you know, but I feel less singled out now.
Still though, what you said offended me. I asked if the emotional response that was triggered by the event related to that of PTSD. You basically through my wrong doings in my face and completely ignored the emotional part I am going through. You made me feel worse than I already do when I am already in an unstable mental state. The way I see it is you don't know how much this girl mentally broke me. You discarded my emotions and basically told me what I was feeling was my fault. Therefore, instead of helping me, you hurt me even more. You hurt me after I expressed how unstable my mental state is and that is not okay. You need to be more considerate of how I feel in this situation. Because, that girl? She's completely fine. Me? I'm a suicidal mess of emotions and being forced to live through an event that was traumatic for me. So next time, consider how your words can make me feel even worse about myself and even more depressed.
I came here for people who care- not people who hurt me more.
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I am sorry you felt attacked...I am glad my further explaination helped....
maybe this also will help .....
my posts sometimes do confuse and trigger new people because I talk and post in ways that sometimes are not familiar to others. A job hazard, a language hazard, a person who has been and does attend college classes. many have found it helpful to read my posts a few times and ask questions.
when I reply I first look for any questions with in the posts that the person may want answered. this is because I know what its like to have questions and have to wait and wait and wait for answers. I dont like seeing others having to wait and wait and wait to get their answers.
when I read your post I saw at the end of your post you were asking questions.....
(From your first post)
Is this trauma? Can that be considered a traumatic event? I really don't know what it is. I do know that it is not normal but no one will take it seriously. It's just that I seriously am experiencing almost all of the symptoms of PTSD, but I know what I went through was nowhere near that severe. So, what is wrong with me??
your title of the thread is called is this kind of like PTSD....
my reply to you was in answer to your questions... since your question in the title was asking if this was PTSD I kept that in mind when answering your questions at your post...that you wanted to know if what you posted was the kind of trauma that is called PTSD.
then I used the examples you supplied in your post to explain why here in New York City what happened with you and the other person is not called PTSD.
I did nor mean it as a slap in the face.
you see when people post replies they read someones post and use whats in that post to reply with and to the original poster about.. thats called staying on topic. So its pretty normal around here to have people pick out examples from your post and put them in their replies. they usually do not mean it as an attack or throwing it in your face when you have done wrong doing and someone reposts it in their reply. its just part of staying on topic. I do realize its not very comfortable sometimes to have that happen, I dont always like it ether, but on the other side of the coin if no one posted about whats in each others posts the good and the bad, then no one would be posting to anyone. no one would be chatting/ talking to each other then we would have a whole website of members just sitting around reading and not replying.
my point when you see someone has pointed out something you didnt expect them to point out for example when a person admits to doing something that other people on the forum may feel was the wrong way to handle something, with a suggestion to try something different, they usually are not trying to slap you in the face. they just want you to see what has jumped out at them in your own posts. my using what you did as examples of why its not called PTSD here where I am was not meant as a slap in the face. Im sorry that it felt that way to you.
yes I did see the other thread, my posts / and replies have a lag in them because I prefer to send them to the moderators before they go on the boards what can I say other than Im a perfectionist at times and like others here my mental illness sometimes makes my perceptions off and I also have a heavy career that can at time affect my personal life. As a result of this I like to send my posts to the moderators first. this sometimes results in a confusing problem on the boards where my reply ends up posted afterwards, not right when I reply. sorry for the confusion.
I am glad things are a bit better for you now.