I was able to get off the couch, leave my house, volunteer and ultimately go back to school to finish.

For me I liked that she didn't worry about boundaries of her profession, boundaries are only guidelines. Yes she is aware of them, but does what she thinks will benefit her client therapeutically. If that meant receiving 50 emails from me in one day, that was okay. She made no promises to me that she could respond to all my emails (though she did respond more than 2/3 the time)l This way she put no pressure on herself to fail me or herself and start changing rules mid game.

I did not know that some therapist offered touch, but that became one of the most important parts of my therapy. When I had erotic transference for her she did not take any of the touch away. She was embracing me when I told her and she convinced me not to break the hold, even though I really wanted her to let me go, because then I would leave the session feeling rejected and that I did something bad.

I like the fact that at times she would call me out on my stuff and but knowing when to apologize. I never went away believing I was a bother, even the time I showed up to her door without an appointment. It was reading the forum an putting me and her in the negative and sad situations of others that had me questioning whether I was going to be abandoned by her. She always reminded me that therapy is a process and it is not linear. And that was okay. She appreciated that I was willing to do the hard work and kept coming back. These are the things that made us a good fit.