I didn't mean to paint the military so negatively. They protect our country at the end of the day,
I was just supporting your statement when you said it is not for you. I am maybe just biased because I applied for the Navy and the interviewer, was quite brutal and basically told me I was not intelligent enough for the job I wished to do. Personally I think I would have been if I had not suffered from my affliction.
Travelling is a sure fire way to "find yourself." You don't have to move away, just take holidays much as you can. Maybe you should make your goal, not finding the career, but finding your soulmate.