You and mom have spent way too much time together. You can make a lot of things right by flying the nest and becoming your own person. It is your mother, more than you, who bears the most responsibility for this mess of a mother-son relationship. She was an adult when you were a child. That's when the inappropriate over-involvement with each other began. Break the pattern. Cut the strings. She's ruining your life. Save yourself. Let her cope on her own. She'll manage.

Being successful in life isn't something you get because you deserve it by being good. You get what you go after in a self-disciplined way. Live your own life.