Thanks all for your responses.

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sister, that is awesome. It sounds like you are "growing up"
Sounds like a milestone experience. I think all of your trust, love, and respect are allowing you to respond to your T, adult to adult. It's becoming a mature relationship. How rewarding for both of you.

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I have been thinking about this all week and here's what I came to:

I don't think it quite means I am growing up. I have always had an adult relationship with T and we have shared many adult conversations. (After all it is the adult who pays the bill.)

What I believe is that the child in me is more secure now in the relationship with T. She is achieving object constancy in a way she could not before. This is a direct result of his responsiveness over the course of the past year. I now trust that he will be there. It's that simple. Yes, it is a milestone - thanks - and it is rewarding, but not necessarily because it is adult to adult.

Now I have to take my adult self to the doctor and my whole self to T--see you all later...