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Originally Posted by Calilady
Broke up with my T last Friday by walking out and telling her that I'll mail in her remaining payments (she took that to mean, "F-ckk you, Jessica"- which is so not what I meant).
On Wednesday, she e-mailed and asked if I'd like an appointment and to see if we can move forward and get on the same page. I agreed, went, and left in tears and that overall, it didn't go well. At the end of the session, she was asking, "If I didn't reach out to you, what would have happened? Would you have contacted me? Would you have just started to mail payments in? Would I have heard from you again?"
I'm an avoidant. This isn't a game and I'm not testing her. I want to end it and I don't want her coming back (again), which I don't think she will, being as it just happened and this will be the second time I'm dumping her.
How did you break-up with your therapist?
I find myself wanting to explain, because she's going to just chalk this up to my avoidant issues when it isn't that. Why do I even care what she thinks? Ugh...
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I avoid as well. I had 6 month break last August and I went back to my ex T. We were doing ok and I growing comfortable and then last session we had a trivial issue which just led to me going on a therapy break. I think that she was was rude and I even went as saying to her that it was a stupid argument. She didn't acknowledge me being upset. I told her I was taking a break and she was alright with that. If that's how she functions or wants to function then okay but to leave something trivial up in the air and not acknowledging anything is an issue for me. I still have two payments to give her. One was for my cancellation. I told her that I would give it to her this week because I didn't want to make a special trip for it. I have way to much going on this week. My boys were suppose to be in to see their T but that up in the air as well. So I'll drop off her money in her mailbox. If she would've shown any signs of interest or concern then I wouldn't have quit. The fact that we had the issues and she didn't even care to clear the air in order for it not lead into what it did then I ended it. My T is not going to lose sleep out of any of this and I don't expect her to. I had things to address that day and things that I'm struggling with. Instead I invested my time in an argument. Perhaps if she reached out to solve things it would've been different. I'm glad she answered to where to deposit her session money though.