I grew up in a neighborhood with mostly guys. I hated playing dols or house with the girls....it was boring compared to climbing fences, climbing trees, playing street baseball. I never had common interests with women. I ended up in a mostly male computer engineering career.....while married. I worked, played racquetball & socialized with the guys at work because they were the only ones I had something in common with. I even enjoyed our work's ballroom dancing club because my H never could dance. I also played my flute in many different chamber groups with many guys who were musicians.

My marriage was not good but I never had an affair in all those years. He talked about his work & activities he was involved in, I talked about mine. Even if the marriage had been good, that is the way our lives would have been because for me being an individual & having my interests & being involved in activities I enjoy is a critical part of my life.

Home & the care of our daughter was totally a partnership deal or I never would have stayed married.

Just because one person in the marriage does something wrong, if your values are TRULY what you say they are, going out with women wouldn't even be an option. It is not society that determines our values it's God & when that is at the real center of your life then our behaviors are based on the same values no matter what direction life takes around us.

Not every time a wife interfaces with males does it mean an affair & reading that into it without PROOF is just asking for trouble because no one likes being accused of something they really didn't do. It only tends to create angry & snide responses.

The thing is that THERE ARE ALWAYS 2 sides to every story & when I tend to hear only one side, it makes me REALLY WONDER about where the other side is REALLY coming from & so my mind tends to think on how I would react in a situation where both sides are NOT presenting themselves....call it the devils advocate.....but when someone tends toward only seeing one possible view of something I usually tend to see other possibilities.

Hope things are becoming REALISTICALLY more clear.