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Old Jul 09, 2017, 01:40 AM
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I am a bit split between two responses: one is that I've sought therapy afterwards and the other one is that I'm yet to find a T who can help. They both apply because I have sought subsequent therapy and because I haven't found the type of help I hoped for. I chose the first response (I have sought therapy after getting harmed in therapy) because to me it implies that not only one has sought subsequent therapy but has been also helped, at least somewhat.

As I said, I was not satisfied with my subsequent therapy experience but I could say that it has helped somewhat because it gave me validation that I needed badly at that time and some helpful insight as well. To be honest, the entire subsequent "therapy" that I consider helpful contained of just 5-6 sessions with 4 different therapists each of whom gave me some useful perspective, which helped me integrate the traumatic experience in the more or less coherent narrative and to distance myself enough from it to gain some emotional balance.

Two sessions with two different therapists were especially powerful.

One was with my former marriage counselor who agreed to see me together with the offending therapist under a condition that she only considered me her client, not him. During that session, she said straight to his face that his behavior was unprofessional and unethical. It was powerful to have another professional supporting me and standing by my side in the dispute with my former therapist.

Another powerful session was with the male T who simply asked me in a very neutral way what I wanted to do with my relationship with the unethical T. He acknowledged the fact that my former T committed an ethical violation, but he didn't get emotionally involved in that drama one way or another, which I greatly appreciated. His detachment helped me understand that, ultimately, I had the power to decide the outcome of the situation and that, ultimately, my life was my business and it was up to me, no one else, to take care of it.

Despite how much that brief experience helped me, I didn't find any of those therapists good enough for me to, once again, embark on yet another lengthy therapy adventure. Later I realized that I simply no longer believed in the traditional therapy model regardless of who is conducting it. That's why those few sessions with different Ts were just as much as I needed from other professionals at that time. They helped. I got what I needed and moved on.
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