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Originally Posted by Hedgeleaf
My child's father as pretty much cancelled plans and let her down consistly for years
This is my proposal
He sees her 1 weekend day
He involves himself in her education such as parents meetings and target setting appointments etc
We equally share bank holidays
During school holidays he sees her for 2 days each week
If he needs to cancel or rearrange then I require 48 hours notice
This is pretty much how it's always been until he decided he didn't want to spend any time with her over the summer holidays and regularly changed plans.
He's ignored all my letters stating how important it is for her to have consistency and structure.
He has decided to send a few txts asking such as the following;
'Just so I can clarify are you stopping me seeing her completely untill I agree to your terms of the letter you sent me?'
I replied no that's the opposite of the ideal outcome
'Ok so I can get all the details am I only allowed to see her when you it suits your schedule? '
I'm at a total loss of what to do!!
I cannot stop him however he makes it very difficult.
We NEED something in place and he's totally ignoring all my efforts.
My solicitor says I cannot take him to court as I cannot make him see her.
So now what?????
I really need some advice and I feel all my previous efforts are totally wasted now
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At first, as I began editing for highlight points, I was going to ask if the proposal was his typical schedule or you being generous? Then I read that this is what he has been doing? And then, in having it in writing he's responding by taking it to mean that you want to remove all visitation?
Now, I'm perplexed.
For myself, as a divorced single mom of three, your proposal if to my own ex would be wishful thinking-trying to mold him into someone he is not. Now, he does take whatever opportunity that he can to see them and he does chat on the telephone. But an ideal he is not. Doesn't seem like that's your case. I bring it up, as it's natural to expect of the other parent to consider the child's emotional well being above self, but that doesn't often happen. If not on the same page in marriage then it stands to reason these discrepancies exist.
It's disappointing, yes.