Have you ever had a T ask you the the wrong question, repeatedly? Or maybe a few times in a session?
For instance, if the T began to say, "Do you do this because you consider this your safe place?" and the answer isn't that, it's something completely different, would you feel any way about it?
I'm not talking about once. I'm talking about doing it more and more frequently over time. Would you begin to lose faith in them?
Or perhaps they didn't understand your questions or requests? I told my ex-t (in the process of deciding how to break up), "Can you see me? I thought you once did, but now I'm not sure. I just need to know that I'm seen by you." Obviously, I know she can see my physical embodiment in the room, I was asking for something more transcendent than that, but the question flummoxed her.
She responded with, "I don't know what you mean by 'see you?' Do you mean validation?"
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