Even though i've dealt with losing a 20 plus year friendship over something that as i think on it was a dumb reason, i also agree with Crazy's statements. i'll tell you what a elder told me when i went to her for help with my lost friendship, "some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. sometimes people come into other's lives just long enough to teach something and then move on. It's our job to figure out what the lesson was and if we learned it." I hope one day you can find peace with these two situations and realize what the lesson was.