(((((((((((( Rainbowzz ))))))))))))))))

I know that in your heart you have to feel like you have done everything you can within your power to make something of this situation work, whether it be for your and your child or even just your child. I have been there before myself before leaving an abusive relationship with my kids father. It's a tough call to finally say "enough already"! But, what I can tell you is that after the decision is finally made and you can put your energies into your life and your childs life without the worry of someone who is constantly trying to control you (and that is exactly what he is doing), you will find a sense of peace and accomplishment. I'm not saying that this is easy because it isn't.

Like others here have said, you owe it to yourself and your child to do what is best for the both of you. No one can or should dictate to you how you give birth or raise your child (unless you are doing something harmful).

It seems to me he is making any kind of excuse he can to not be in your lives in any fashion. He knows he is putting stipulations on you that are difficult and/or impossible for you to follow through on. I hate to say it hon, but he's telling you in no uncertain terms that he doesn't want to be a part of your lives. I know it's hard to hear....hard to accept. I'm sorry if I've hurt your feelings. I am not trying to hurt you, just open your eyes to what he is saying....and reading between the lines.

Like I said in the beginning...you will have to figure out all this in your own mind and heart. I pray that what you decide on is the right choice for you and your child and that you both have a wonderful and fulfilling life.


sabby