I am stuck in the place where all I do is see the negative of what is said and done around me. Example:

Thursday in session, I was talking about coming in and being the adult and not letting the little boy do what he wants to do. T said that maybe it isn't about doing what the little boy wants to do but bringing what the little boy feels to the adult (or something like that). I get that she is talking a little about integrating the parts so that the adult gets to feel the things the little boy feels (he hold my joy, excitement, laughter... and others). What I keep doing is twisting this concept to being that the little boy isn't supposed to be here and what he wants isn't appropriate for me (the adult I). I know I'm the one twisting this and it is not what T was saying or meaning.

Something happened with my mom today along those same lines where she gave me a compliment and then said I was lucky to have my wife to share my life. Leaves me feeling like the compliment was more about my wife than about me. I know that is not what was said.

So, does anyone know how they are able to get out of this cycle if they find themselves stuck in it?