Our son's wife is older than him by 14 years. They have her 20 yr. old son and 18 yr. old son living with them. But the 20 yr. old has a 16 yr. old girlfriend and they have 2 little boys, ages almost 2&3. The 18 yr. old son now has his 19 yr. old girlfriend living there.
It's been too much for way too long. The boys won't get jobs and keep them. Our daughter-in-law was just in the hospital about a week and a half ago with a bleeding ulcer. Ended up needing 4 units of blood. Almost as bad as my husband's, needing 7 before.
Anyway, some help is needed here. The kids won't make sure house is clean when they get home. Both our son and she work full time jobs and have 2 paper routes.
The young parents were locking the babies in their room too. It's just horrible. A nightmare, it has been. And I'm fearful for our son and her health and well being. Now it's gone way too far for the new girlfriend of the youngest son, to think she can live there too. She has no job either, wouldn't you know.
Never would have guessed such a life for our son. He would like to become a highway patrolman, but they have a lot of ignored debts, etc. not in their favor. And he says they couldn't use any income tax money to help towards any of that, why, probably because they feel like they need to give some of it to the "kids", which they've always done!
Thought of calling Nanny 911. Need some advice, prayer, maybe outside people with advice or counsel for them. This can't continue. I thought make a suggestion about daycare if the young dad would work, and pitch in money. Even if the little ones went there for a few days every other week. It could help maybe, would be nice for something to make a difference.
Sure, they probably need to just kick them out. But what, on the street? Our son and wife want freedom, but not to kick them out on the street. Some planning needs done. Still the older "kids" won't do things on their own. And they need a life of their own, in more ways than one. It's not healthy for them either!