Most of us lack some sort of skills because NO parents have it together enough to teach their kids everything they need to know. Sadly that seems from my long years of observation & experience to just be the way it is. But as I said in my previous post, that is what therapy provides....the teaching process for those skills we are lacking, those skills we were never taught or picked up through life experiences. Therapy also provides ACCOUNTABILITY which is important too because they are able to check in our progress of leaving those skills.

The other thing about learning skills is that it doesn't just happen because we intellectually KNOW THE SKILL. It takes lots of work putting the skill into practice & practicing, practicing, practicing until it just becomes your new normal.

There MAY BE psych reasons why socializing is more difficult for you also....that is also something a Therapist will be able to diagnose. It's not always a learned or not learned situation sometimes it's the way the mind works.....& they can teach skills that can help deal with that too.

My father & my ex-H were incapable of socializing. Researching their behaviors years later the reason became obvious something that with the current psych/Therapist capabilities would have been known.