To my ex therapist I wrote whenever I felt a need to write and wrote what ever was on my mind at the moment. All the above you ask about I wrote about. The first night I wrote six emails. She responded on average 2/3 of the time. Many times we had a dialogue going, similar to the this forum. We DID therapy through email: long ones, short ones, angry ones, just because ones, I wuv woo ones... I do not believe, nor did my therapist believe that much gets lost in translation. I sent over a thousand and I believe it helped speed up our terminating by 6-12 months.

I have a standby therapist and try to see her when I'm in the states to help me with aging parents' stuff, and I email her and my ex therapist for the same reasons, but more positive stuff, because that is what my life is like now, and definitely less often, because their support is not needed.They always respond and are happy to hear from me.

I think it is important that a therapist allow emails, but state up front the possibility of not reading and/or responding. Emails are not for emergencies.