You need to cut the cord, Scientia. What's wrong with where your mother is living now? If "working together" means your income is dependent upon some joint business venture with your mother, then you are pretty entangled. Getting unentangled may be beyond what you can conceive of.

What the people in your mom's social circle think is of no great consequence in your life. Your mom saying all those things you quote above sounds to me like she is really terrified of you "abandoning" her, which is how she probably would view you moving out. The two of you sound like quarreling domestic partners, which I guess is what you are. Mom resents how much she needs you, but she keeps clinging. I think you are meeting more needs of hers than you realize. Try and pursue relationships outside home.