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Old Dec 19, 2007, 01:50 AM
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Okay, lets take this one step at a time. You're saying that you have had no problems up until entering high school, upon which you started to have trouble finding anything to talk about with unfamiliar people. You also mention having problems properly standing up for yourself.
Since I happen to dislike the traditional answer for teenage problems ["it's your hormones"], lets take a different approach. It seems like whatevers happening is definately having an impact on your personality, but it may not neccessarily be the cause. Is there anything thats been bothering you lately in your life? Or do you feel anxious in situations where you're left without anything to say? There may be different reasons why this happens. In the end I can't really help you find out why; but I can suggest that you spend some times thinking about things in a constructive manner. Doing something calm and relaxing before delving into what you may think is "wrong with you and why" [and I don't beleive that there is anything wrong with you], is probably a good idea. If thats something you don't want to think about it, why not ask someone that you trust to give you an honest answer? Sometimes were our own worst judges.

As to whether this could be an actual problem and whether it's going to stick around, I'm not sure. Things that happen when your an adolescent may or may not stay the same when you're an adult. That's because adolescence is about finding your identity. I actually would be more concerned if you thought about this and worried about for longer than you think is normal. Worries can make you overthink things, and then small issues turn into big ones.

Best of luck and good wishes to you.
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