Thank you so much for posting this. I want to read the book now. especially this part rang true for me "Now the complicated part. Much of the time when a break in attunement is due to a therapist error, it also arouses feelings associated with unfinished business from the past. Just because the therapist has participated in creating the problem doesn't mean the feelings all stem from the present. It is likely that there are also feelings from the past piggybacked on top of the present ones. How can you tell? When the feelings are out of proportion to what has happened in the present, it usually means that something from the past was activated as well. Unfortunately, in situations like this, when the therapist's role is not error-free or "clean" it is much more difficult to sort out feelings come from where. The rule is this: Therapist and patient will have to first sort through and heal the problem in the therapeutic relationship before clarifying what comes from the past. Only then, when here-and-now feelings are no longer intense, is there a chance to identify and address what comes from the past. If clarity is not possible because of the murkiness of the situation, dealing with feelings from the past may have to wait till they are activated again under circumstances that are less confused."

regarding the current situation with my t. wow.