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Old Jul 11, 2017, 01:54 PM
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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours View Post

I do think an authentically unfazed response from a T is critical. In the absence of that, it is rather hard to say where a therapeutic relationship ends and a "real" (read dysfunctional) relationship begins.

(Or maybe I'm just over-sensitive, now that I seem to have chewed through two Ts in short order.)
Therapy is NOT the process of winning arguments with your t. I know it seems like it should be, but its not. Thats kinda like all left brain logical work. But therapy work is right brain feeeeeeeling stuff.

Remember the Bazooka Joe comic, where hes looking for a quarter on the street? He lost it on 4th street, but hes looking for it on Main, because the light is better on Main. Same thing. Only different! You can argue til the cows come home, thats not doing the work. My t wont argue.
Thanks for this!
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