I agree that you need to put yourself in a safe place. Please do get advice from other professionals. I don't know if I would create a situation with his wife or not, you may be the one getting hurt by doing this more than anyone else. I find it a bit hard to believe he is having an affair with you because he feels sorry for you and to make you feel better. He may actually care for you who knows but do you really want to be involved with a man who could violate his religious vows as well as his marriage vows? You need to find a counselor who has your best interests in mind. I really doubt it is this man.
I agree...run to help.

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