I completely agree that one should live for one's self. Not in a a selfish way, but in a way that means one is making choices in one's own best interest etc. I say screw trying to be a good client or trying to make a therapist happy or like you or whatever.

Reading that psychobabbly crap from that author quoted makes me want to rip off his arm and beat him over the head with it. I find that sort of language and idea idiotic and patronizing.

I do not experience those guys the way so many of you describe. If what that guy described happened to me - I would be furious.