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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Does she want cupcakes, though? Or acai bowls? Or poems? Is that what a good therapeutic relationship is based on?
If you're going to stay with her, why not stop doing all the things you usually do and live for yourself, not someone else? Easier said than done, but if she doesn't like that either, then she's a bad choice all around.
You know that Seinfeld episode where George acts the opposite of his instincts and suddenly everything goes awesome for him? There's something to that.
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This is what I've started thinking today. My ex-husband told me over dinner, OUT OF THE BLUE, "
Ya know, you're still loyal to her even now, after all of this." I agreed. He leaned in. "
You know that you can NEVER, EVER MAKE her see that, right?"
I began to get upset. Def a wound there. I do see what you're saying and have been thinking the same thing myself. I don't know I were to articulate that to her, what it would be met with. I'm not sure it even matters anymore. But how does this work within the T relationship if she becomes defensive? Am I not just sticking around to deal with my mom again, just differently? Will I have maxed out on all that I can cash out of this?
I usually run. To stay in this is very new and confusing.