I agree, why torture yourself like that unless you have kids together. My kids dad and I are friends, check up on each other every so often but he is remarried and I am as well and there is nothing there so it works but my privious ex, no way, its was to hard even tho i thought it would be better to have him as a friend then not at all. No it wasnt. It left an element if hope. It takes the death of hope to let go and move on.