Jelly, how are you supporting yourself? Do you shop for groceries? Or does your flatmate get things for you.

Professional people evaluating you look for signs of "grave self-neglect." If you were 85 years old, these people would take you more seriously. If you were very elderly and telling people you couldn't care for yourself, they would be looking to get you admitted into a nursing home - where you would be fed and checked on and given help with anything you needed help with. Someone would even give you a shower, if you needed help with that.

Once in a while young people are admitted to nursing homes, if the young person is paralysed or has Down Syndrome. Nobody is putting you in that category because you are not paralyzed. You can read and write coherently. You are intelligent and organized enough to go online and communicate. So society's expectation is that you are responsible for caring for you.

If you are can't cope with life, then someone or you, yourself, can call to be a evaluated by whatever department of your local government that does that. In the United States, every community has a "Department of Adult Protection Services." They evaluate adults who have a physical or mental impairment that makes them unable to cope with caring for themselves. In Britain, as in any modern country, there is some agency doing the same thing. You can find out that agency and their phone number. Any policeman can tell you. Then a social worker would come visit you and listen to you describe your problem. Then arrangements would be made to get help to do for you whatever you're incapable of doing for yourself. Also, a legal guardian for you would be appointed by the court. That could be a relative, or one of the people that the court has available to perform that role.

These kind of measures aren't undertaken lightly. If you tell the social worker, "I'm lonely. I want to be given the attention that my parents failed to give me when I was growing up." then the social worker is going to say, "Sorry, but society doesn't provide that. You will have to solve your problem as best you can."

Some individuals like yourself end up homeless and wandering around with nowhere to call home. There are services to help those people, but no one goes out to totally rescue them. You probably have seen homeless people in your town, or in the city nearest to you.

So that's how it goes for people who fail to take care of themselves. Trippin has a very good insight, saying that you seem to have traits of a person with Dependent Personality Disorder. You haven't gotten in to a relationship where someone is willing to take care of you. I think what you're hoping for is a fantasy. You're an adult. No one is going to "adopt" you and give to you what you missed out on as a child.

This is how some young women get lured into prostitution. They become homeless and wander around. Quite soon they get noticed and approached by someone who offers to "take care" of them. But they have to do something in return. In life, there is a price for everything.