I'm currently in an emotionally abusive marriage that I'm working on getting out of. I'm in therapy and attend group therapy for domestic violence survivors. There have been some things that are considered physically and sexually abusive, but he does not hit me.

There was an incident several days ago that seems to concern my therapist and therapy group, but for some reason didn't scare me. I was sleeping when my husband entered the room and woke me in the middle of the night. He wanted to talk, but I said something he didn't like so he said "I should shove this sock down your throat and kill you". Then he held my head down and shoved his sock onto my nose and mouth for a few seconds. A few minutes later he said "I have just enough energy to kill you right now" as I was walking out of the room past him. I didn't feel any fear during or after this incident. I think I don't even care anymore if he physically hurts me because he's about destroyed me with the emotional and verbal abuse.

Should I be more concerned about this incident than I am? I feel like I may be too close to the situation to judge if it was serious or not. I also feel like he wouldn't hurt me. He's always telling me he would never hurt me. My therapist is on vacation right now and is only sporadically available via email so I'm just trying to get a handle on my feelings, or lack of them, surrounding this incident.