T and i would text very frequently for 6 years. i would text him for support and we would also just text as friends, like very casual conversations not related to my therapy

last year T changed the boundaries with texting because he felt it was too confusing for me. i told him i think he played a part in the dynamic that developed with my dependency on his responses to my texts.

overall i am happier with the very limited texting we do. i know i cry and whine about it on here but i notice i am way less obsessed with him, checking my phone, getting distressed because he hasnt responded, etc. i mean it would literally ruin my whole day if i sent a text that went ignored.

feeling ignored is a HUGE trigger for me