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Originally Posted by xRavenx
I have a friend who ALWAYS complains about everything. This person was always a complainer, but it used to be not as bad. I understand she has a lot going on, and I've been patient and trying to be helpful. That being said, this friend talks a mile a minute about everything wrong in their life non-stop. I realize she probably doesn't have anyone who will listen, but it's becoming a one-way friendship.
I don't get why she keeps talking to me constantly, when I can't change anything, and it doesn't seem I can't make her any happier since she's always miserable. When I go over there, I can't help wondering if I'm being taken advantage of. Maybe she's not and just needs a friend....I don't know. Now, she hardly ever asks how I'm doing or inquires about my own life. Everything seems to be "so much worse" in her life, compared to everyone else's (so she makes it seem). I'm not insensitive by any means, but there's a limit to everyone's tolerance.
How should I handle someone with these behaviors? I do value the friendship, but these patterns seem to be affecting the way I feel.
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Does she have depression? If she does then try to see if you can get her help. If she is not then tell her to stop complaining and that she is not the only person that has it rough at times. Give yourself and her some space too. And don't give in to her complaining. I do that to a friend. She doesn't complain as much but she used to and it bugged me and drained me so much so eventually I stopped trying to help and would just simply listen and not say anything that would encourage her to complain even more. She did the exact same stuff your friend does. Complained when she didn't get her way.