That's awesome about the relationship. She sounds like a very special person and you too for understanding both sides. That's disappointing though that you don't feel like your therapist is helping you with the flashbacks. Have you brought this concern up to the therapist? That you don't feel like you are getting the help with the flashbacks? Is there another therapist you could see ? You are paying for help, and it they can't provide the help you need then they should help you find a therapist that can. Or like my situations, I have had to try a few others before I found someone that I could have a good relationship with and help me. So that may be an option.I really wish you well with it and that you can find someone that can help you. Most of us here have had similar issues with therapist and have changed as many times as it takes to find the right one. Good luck and glad you are feeling a little better.