Ugh, so H was saying to D about taking her to speech, then to camp, then to the indoor pool (because it's supposed to be miserable out) tomorrow. I told him he didn't have to take her to the pool, that I could manage to get my work done without that (it's the reason he's taking her). He got irritated by that, too. I tried to explain to him that if he wants to do me a favor/help me out, he should be more like, "Hey, so I can take her to speech tomorrow so you'll have that time. Then, if you need more time, I don't mind taking her to the pool." Like, to offer to help me out. Not act like he's doing me this giant favor and then getting p*ssy when I say he doesn't have to do that, that I can manage. Stupidly, I said he was acting like he was being a martyr, which of course p*ssed him off...But seriously, if you want to say, "I'll do this to help!" then do it. Don't act all annoyed about it. Because then I just feel bad and say you don't need to do it, which just irritates you even more.

Do the favor willingly and because you want to help me. Or don't. Whatever. Not begrudgingly and like it's this huge burden.