I think I can see where he is coming from. He is going to shift off of himself as much as he can. You have to say that the chikdcare is not possible right now and stick to that. This guy has developed a dependency pattern. He will always be testing you to see how much shirking of responsibility you will put up with. He will always tell himself that anything he doesn't want to do is really too much for him to handle due to his mental health issues. That will be the "go to" excuse for everything. Lets just hope that he properly attends to the child when he is needed to when you aren't home.

It's a well known pattern, written about in lots of articles, that when a husband and wife both work equal hours, the wife ends up doing the lion's share of the housework. You'ld think when the husband isn't even the breadwinner that he'ld step up around the home. But often it isn't.

I know my boyfriend was very good about cooking. But, if he managed to vacuum the apartment while I was out, he'ld keep telling me when I came home, "Yeah, I vacuumed the whole place." I'ld have to keep saying, "Oh it looks so nice. You did such a good job." Like I was patting an 11 year old on the head.

It never ocurred to me to greet him at the door saying, "Well I did all the dishes and I dusted and wait till you see how clean the toilet is." Women just do stuff and move on. Guys have to have their work admired and praised. At least that's true of a lot of them.

What you're going through isn't fair. Avoid giving in on the childcare. Otherwise next it will be something else. He'll never believe he's capable of as much as he is. If praising him helps, lay on the praise.