LT this happens to me all the time! I feel guilty/bad/unworthy asking for help but I really need it. The helper will give me some kind of sign that they aren't willing (rolls eyes, sarcasm, snap a response) which immediately makes me regret asking. Then I say never mind because if I have to see/hear how much this puts you out I'd rather just do it myself. I'm specifically talking about my kids but used to happen with S/O's as well. No advice just commiserations.