If I'm hearing you right, this sounds exactly what I'm reading about for myself in _Positive Energy_ by Judith Orloff, M.D.

An Intuitive Empath is extremely sensitive to the energies of other people. The goal of this book is to teach us how to protect ourselves and preserve our energy.

You might also be interested in _Please Understand Me: An Essay on Temperament Styles_ By David Keirsey, Marilyn M. Bates.

"If you feel like no one understands you, it's because they don't."