LT, I think that you and I are similar in that regard. Have you and H explored your love languages? I want H to offer to do whatever, because I'm highly driven by acts of service. When I ask him to, for instance, take out the trash, I feel like he's showing how much he loves me when he actually takes out the trash. Even better if he takes out the trash without me asking.

When H and I finally sat down and took the love languages survey, we were able to facilitate a conversation about why I feel the way I feel about chores and the mundane things in life. The more he helps, the less I have to do, and the more time I have to spend with him. It changed the way we approach our relationship. Sorry if I'm overstepping on the advice front.