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Originally Posted by daisydid
LT, I think that you and I are similar in that regard. Have you and H explored your love languages? I want H to offer to do whatever, because I'm highly driven by acts of service. When I ask him to, for instance, take out the trash, I feel like he's showing how much he loves me when he actually takes out the trash. Even better if he takes out the trash without me asking.
When H and I finally sat down and took the love languages survey, we were able to facilitate a conversation about why I feel the way I feel about chores and the mundane things in life. The more he helps, the less I have to do, and the more time I have to spend with him. It changed the way we approach our relationship. Sorry if I'm overstepping on the advice front.
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Thanks, I've looked at it a bit before (don't have the book) but at the time wasn't sure which applied to me. Just took the quiz and got:
Words of Affirmation (10)
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
Followed by Gift Giving (8) (though most of those questions seemed paired with touch ones, which isn't a big motivator for me, so I doubt gift giving is really this high)
Acts of Service (7)
Quality Time (4)
Physical Touch (1)