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Originally Posted by ruh roh
LT, have you tried asking without adding the sorry part? For me, that would take away any kind of feeling of helping out (if I'm the one being asked to help). I don't know how else to explain it, but just asking for something on its own, without the sorry, just feels better on the other end. I would think it might feel better on your end too?
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Hm, maybe I'll try that. I think it's just when H seems reluctant to do something I ask, then I feel compelled to add the sorry part. Like if I said, "Could you do x for me?" and he just said, "Yeah, OK, I can make that work." then I wouldn't feel the need to apologize. It's more when he's like, "FINE [sigh] I can do that I guess" where I feel I need to apologize and try to retract my request. It's like we're stuck in a bad pattern.