Erebos has mentioned a possible solution. I can fully understand why you would be resentful. I was fortunate in my marriage in that my now ex-husband carried his fair share of responsibilities. I encourage you to have a heart to heart conversation with him and let him know you expect him to pick up more responsibilities. You could come up with a spreadsheet outlining the necessary tasks and chores in your household that need to be done and split them between the two of you. You could do the same with the childcare. Good luck and best wishes.