Thanks everyone for your help and support. We are definitely planning to get someone to clean when he starts working, we had a cleaner before when we were both working and it helped. And I'm also not as mad about him not doing his "fair share" of household tasks if he is working. When I was having more issues with my mental health over the last year relationship got pretty bad. I was also having thyroid problems which made me exhausted, so a new job, a baby, cooking, and cleaning was just too much for me. Now that I'm feeling better, and he is helping a little more, I am able to handle the more of the cleaning. And we got a Costco membership a few weeks ago and I've been having my husband make their premade meals, they are pretty good and all he has to do is put them in the oven. We do that 3 times a week.

I really feel like things have already improved a lot, but I know my resentment is still there on some level and that it causes me to become angry over small things. I have to keep telling myself I don't want us to be fighting because he didn't do this or that, and that it isn't worth it.

I totally agree about men not being natural at nurturing a child and keeping a home. He is definitely good with our daughter, he doesn't neglect her, but he doesn't give her as much attention as I would if I were home with her. But that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Kids need to learn to entertain themselves.

And I understand that men like to be praised for things they do around the house, so I try to do that.

Thanks again for reading my post and giving me some feedback.