Okay, can i be the bad guy for a minute?

Equal is good, but was it equal? First you took away his gym time, to celebrate your good news, but you also took away his opportunity to offer you a celebration. Thats two. Then he takes her to the pool. Thats minus three for him, plus two for you.

Okay i am lousy at keeping score, but maybe you were feeling guilty cuz it did feel unbalanced? Like your wanting a drink to celebrate IMMEDIATELY outweighed even the idea of a leisurely planned gifted uncontrolled-by-you celebration later.

Just throwing some ideas out there. I feel like there is something between you two that cant be said, and im not sure what it is. The control issue was big for me - do they love me enough or do i have to make my own advances?