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Originally Posted by unaluna
Okay, can i be the bad guy for a minute?
Equal is good, but was it equal? First you took away his gym time, to celebrate your good news, but you also took away his opportunity to offer you a celebration. Thats two. Then he takes her to the pool. Thats minus three for him, plus two for you.
Okay i am lousy at keeping score, but maybe you were feeling guilty cuz it did feel unbalanced? Like your wanting a drink to celebrate IMMEDIATELY outweighed even the idea of a leisurely planned gifted uncontrolled-by-you celebration later.
Just throwing some ideas out there. I feel like there is something between you two that cant be said, and im not sure what it is. The control issue was big for me - do they love me enough or do i have to make my own advances?
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I was talking more about how LT shouldn't feel inferior because she makes less than her husband. If you keep score in relationships, then there are times there will be inequity, but it should balance out overall.
I mean, I'm certainly not a relationship expert. H and I have our dysfunctions, but overall we're okay. When we're not okay, it's usually because I'm very not okay.