Thanks for the thoughts. But he wouldn't have planned a celebration for me. He doesn't do that sort of thing. Maybe years ago, back when we were dating, he would have bought me flowers or something. But he wouldn't have done anything now. I mean, he didn't even give me a glass clink last night, like "To good results on the scan" or something.

And he told me he didn't want to go to the gym anyway so I was saving him from having to run on the treadmill (which he may not have been able to do because he has a toe injury).

A lot of it for me is feeling like I have to ask for everything and spell it out exactly when I'm stressed and why. Like I had to say "I have things x, y, and z that I have to get done in the next few days." Just saying "I have a lot of work" would probably be meaningless. I want him to be like, "You're really stressed, so what can I do to help." Or in this case, "I know you were really worried about that test--do you want to talk about it?" Instead he just talked about work the whole time. Which, yes, he's going through a stressful time there, too, so I tried to just let him talk, while I listened and asked questions about it. But I had other stuff I wanted to talk about, too. I feel like something of my anger and tears were from that--feeling like I didn't get the support I wanted either during or after the fact.