I know that this is my first post and probably not a good first impression but I have got to figure this out!!!
I am generally known as a very kind person who will go out of my way to help other people as well as to avoid hurting anyone. So, this is my weakness, my charachter flaw I supose. I have been married for 17 years, and I have had affairs throughout my marriage. I have not had a lover outside of my marriage for at least 5 years, but the desire is still there. I have simply focused on my education and my career, not allowing time for any new relationships.
I was sexually abused for the first 17 years of my life, the second seventeen I have been married to my current husband. I am a good mom, and my husband is very happy. For years I blamed this problem on my innability to say "no"; but now I can honestly say that I just have no desire to say no. Sex, as it should be, is very sacred to my husband. I was not raised that way and I have difficulty incorperating that in my life.
Whatever the reason, this is definately an issue I need to resolve!! So, if anyone has any advice, about how to get rid of this desire I would really appreciate it because apparently time alone is not doing it!!!