My T has gone through the training, boundaries are solid, respect for the subject matter is in tact...but T doesn't understand why these feelings are painful. I have read only one professional article that intimated many clients feel closer to their Ts when they finally understand the feelings behind the feelings. We're getting nowhere and I'm not sure I can or want to continue this line of therapy unless my T can say, yes, she understands how agonizing ET can be. (Sigh) We may have a rupture over this - neither of us seems willing to give what's needed for an understanding.